So, Jack and I have been trying to sell our house for 13 months now. Before you jump to any conclusions, you have to know that we live in a nice house that is updated and cute and really great. (Some assume that it hasn't sold because it's in such poor condition). Anyhow, I guess my need to clarify explains some of the reason I'm even writing. This has been such a frustrating process. We have had over 50 showings and I have learned that I take every comment about my home very personally - the majority of which I can do NOTHING about.
1. don't like the shared driveway
2. don't like the elementary school across the street
3. don't like the condos down the road
4. doesn't have a basement
5. the kitchen tile is too textured
I could go on.
So, tonight we're waiting on an offer. I have prayed about this for months and really want to believe that God is going to provide an offer that is reasonable and will give us enough money to put a good amount towards a new house. But, the doubts and fears are a little bit too close. It makes it really hard to believe that He would actually do that. I worry that some horrible thing will come up during the inspection and the buyer will think we haven't taken care of our house. Again, I take it all so personally. And I wonder why. Why do I feel like comments made about my house and my neighborhood are a personal attack on me. I should KNOW that I am not defined by the house that I live in, but I struggle on so many levels with caring too much about how people see me. Am I performing well, am I a good friend, am I pretty enough, and apparently, do you approve of my house?
I don't have any solutions. It is a day by day battle for me. I know that I must keep reminding myself that God's view of me is the only one that matters. So, why is that so hard?
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can i say, I hear you sister! I wish I had answers to pass along, but all I have is that you're not alone in this crazy people-pleasing habit. Just yesterday I found myself feeling personally attacked by my teammate being annoyed at the ovenmitt turning up outside...I didn't do it...but because I'm supposed to supervise our cook/housekeeper here, I took it as a personal attack...and she was only making a small remark about this annoyance...
Aside from this, praying for a GREAT offer & trusting that the home that awaits you was well worth the wait! He is Good and He does have your best in mind! Hang in there! (oh, and if you get any good advice, could you pass it along to me?)
I know this must be so hard for you... the waiting and the not knowing... And from all of us people-pleasers, I think we can all relate. But, it's definitely a buyer's market right now, and so even though it has nothing to do with you, they think they can be picky. Still praying for that offer!!!!
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